Dating involves a series of decisions. Some are minor and straightforward, others are complicated and emotion-laden.

Most people believe they need to feel confident before they flirt, or that it only “counts” if it leads to something. But flirting isn’t a test you pass or fail. It’s a social skill. And like any skill, we all start out as bumbling beginners. You practice, get feedback, tweak things, and try again.

“Eh… I don’t and can’t flirt.”

That was me… up until a few years ago.

Perhaps you, too, feel like flirting is something other people do, especially if it’s been a while since you last dated anyone.

Part of the problem was my definition.

Ever wonder why some dates seem to go nowhere, despite your best efforts? Or why someone you thought was “just okay” at first becomes attractive after a few interactions?

Attraction is complicated — it’s a blend of factors, some within your control and others entirely out of your hands.

So, you went on a date, thought it went well, and then... nothing. No second date. Maybe they politely declined. Maybe they ghosted. Or maybe you got unmatched after expressing interest. Whether it was a soft no, a hard no, or radio silence, it still stings.

We hear a lot about emotional intelligence these days — but before you get to maturity or communication, it all starts with something simpler (and often overlooked): awareness.

This first date guide is for anyone who’s never had one, hasn’t had a good one, or hasn’t had one in a while.

Alright, let’s get this out of the way: first dates are awkward.

You’ve put yourself out there, followed all the dating advice, and tried everything, but you’re still struggling to meet someone you truly connect with. The good news? You’re not alone, and you’re not failing. This article explores why dating can feel so frustrating, the hidden factors at play, and practical mindset shifts that can help you approach connections with more ease and confidence.

We live in a world that glorifies speed, fast results, quick decisions, immediate gratification. But what if the key to true efficiency, success, and fulfillment is actually the opposite? What if slowing down is the fastest way to get where we want to go?

Ever felt that twinge of disappointment when a promising match suddenly fizzles out?

Maybe the conversation felt like pulling teeth, or the first date left you with a weird vibe you couldn't quite explain.

Assumptions can break connections — whether in dating, friendships, or the workplace. Discover the most common relationship myths and how to approach connections with curiosity and flexibility.