So, you’ve started flirting — maybe with a smile, a playful question, or some light teasing.

Now you may be wondering:

Are they flirting, too? Or are they just being friendly? Nice? Polite?

Most people think flirting is one thing: seductive, sexy, maybe a little bold.

But that’s only one style of flirting. And for many people, it’s the least natural.

Most people believe they need to feel confident before they flirt, or that it only “counts” if it leads to something. But flirting isn’t a test you pass or fail. It’s a social skill. And like any skill, we all start out as bumbling beginners. You practice, get feedback, tweak things, and try again.

So, you read Part 1 and understand that flirting doesn’t have to be creepy or performance art. And perhaps you even challenged yourself by smiling at someone a second longer last week.

But… it still feels awkward / weird / uncomfortable.

You’re on the right track!

“Eh… I don’t and can’t flirt.”

That was me… up until a few years ago.

Perhaps you, too, feel like flirting is something other people do, especially if it’s been a while since you last dated anyone.

Part of the problem was my definition.

Does dating ever leave you spiraling: stuck in your head, overthinking a text, or wondering what that look meant?

Have you ever dated someone who said and did all the right things, but it felt like there was a wall up?

Maybe they were attentive over text and made plans regularly, but deeper conversations never really happened.

Emotional labor is what keeps relationships running smoothly — but it can become exhausting when the effort is one-sided.
Unfortunately, it’s one of those things you often don’t notice until you’re doing more than your share — or feeling the strain when no one is.

Assumptions can break connections — whether in dating, friendships, or the workplace. Discover the most common relationship myths and how to approach connections with curiosity and flexibility.

Expressing romantic interest can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn’t have to be! This guide walks you through subtle and direct ways to show someone you’re interested while maintaining confidence, respecting boundaries, and handling rejection gracefully.

Online dating can feel like navigating a whole new world. The profiles are there, the matches are made, but then comes the big question: what do you say? How do you stand out in a sea of “Hey” and “What’s up?” Breaking the ice online requires a mix of creativity, thoughtfulness, and just the right amount of effort to spark a meaningful connection.