What’s Your Status Quo?
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Driving on autopilot — a reminder of how easily we slip into our status quo.
Sometimes, life just happens to us. You hop in your car, maybe put the GPS on, and before you know it, you’re pulling into your parking spot without remembering a single turn you took.
Ever feel that way at work? Or when you’re catching up with friends or family? Like you’ve arrived somewhere, but you’re not sure you were really the one driving?
The other day, I was listening to a podcast where this brilliant question came up: What’s your status quo? (In other words, what’s your current state of affairs?)
It’s a simple, neutral question. If your status quo is solid, it’s a reminder to be grateful. If it’s not, it’s a chance to notice what you might want to change.
Here’s the tricky part: sometimes your status quo is built out of circumstances beyond your control. But sometimes, it’s the result of your own choices — patterns you’ve created, maybe without realizing it.
In dating, your status quo might look like ghosting or half-hearted conversations. Or it might go deeper:
overthinking every text or interaction
keeping things casual or distant
setting expectations so high no one quite measures up
being unclear about what you really want
Whatever it is, ask yourself if you like that status quo. Because all things being equal, you’ll continue to maintain it — whether you’re aware of it or not.
If you can’t name your status quo, you can’t decide whether it’s worth keeping.
So, what’s your status quo? And is it one you actually want to maintain?
