There’s a popular idea in modern dating that being sex-positive, confident, and open-minded means sleeping together early — even on the first or second date — is not a big deal.

I’m not here to shame that choice. But for anyone hoping for something meaningful, it’s worth shedding light on what this norm can actually mean.

Think your photos are the reason dating isn’t working? Maybe. But maybe it’s the story behind the swipe. This piece explores what really changed when I stopped tweaking my profile and started noticing my patterns.

We live in a world that glorifies speed, fast results, quick decisions, immediate gratification. But what if the key to true efficiency, success, and fulfillment is actually the opposite? What if slowing down is the fastest way to get where we want to go?

While dating can be exciting and full of possibility, I’ve also felt like it was an endless, hopeless job search — thrilling at times, but exhausting if you're not careful.

Winging it in dating can feel spontaneous and fun, but it often leads to mismatched connections. To answer, “So, what’re you looking for?” confidently, it helps to unpack what you truly want and what you're ready to share.