Flirting: What’s Your Flirting Style?

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This iconic look screams “seductive” — but it’s just one way to flirt.

Most people think flirting is one thing: seductive, sexy, maybe a little bold.

But that’s only one style of flirting. And for many people, it’s the least natural.

That’s why I teach multiple flirting styles — so you can stop asking “Am I doing this right?” and start asking “Which version feels most like me?”

Four Flirting Styles to Try

If you’ve been wondering how to flirt, here’s a quick menu to work from:

Playful Flirting
This is where teasing, inside jokes, and cheeky comments live. It’s light, casual, and fun — think “back and forth banter” energy.

Sincere Flirting
Heartfelt compliments, genuine appreciation, thoughtful follow-ups. It’s warm and kind without being intense.

Physical Flirting
Eye contact. Smiles. Laughs. Subtle touch. Mirroring the other person’s posture or tone. Most of this happens without words.

Seductive Flirting
This is the one that usually gets all the attention — lip biting, lingering glances, innuendo. But it works best when mutual interest is already clear.

You don’t have to pick just one. In fact, many people naturally blend styles once they start experimenting.

Why People Get Stuck

Sometimes flirting feels like this: awkward, exposed, and easier to run from.

Flirting often feels awkward when you’re new to it. That’s normal.

In my webinars and workshops, the biggest hesitation I hear is:

“I don’t want it to come off the wrong way.”

People also worry about feeling awkward. Or looking stupid. Or bothering someone.

So they default to doing nothing at all.

But I assure you that flirting doesn’t have to be about becoming someone you’re not. It’s about finding natural, respectful ways to express interest and warmth. You’re not trying to “get” something. You’re learning a social skill.

And, like all skills, it gets easier with practice.

Want to Practice in Real Life?

Join the next “How to Flirt” Skills Lab. It’s a 60-minute live session where you’ll:

• Learn the four flirting styles in more depth

• Try out playful, sincere, and physical flirting in low-stakes practice rounds

• Laugh (a lot)

Whether you’re brand new or just want to brush off the dust, this Skills Lab is designed to help you flirt in a way that actually feels like you.

🎟️ The next lab is on Wednesday, August 20
Reserve your spot here →