So, you’ve started flirting — maybe with a smile, a playful question, or some light teasing.

Now you may be wondering:

Are they flirting, too? Or are they just being friendly? Nice? Polite?

Most people think flirting is one thing: seductive, sexy, maybe a little bold.

But that’s only one style of flirting. And for many people, it’s the least natural.

Most people believe they need to feel confident before they flirt, or that it only “counts” if it leads to something. But flirting isn’t a test you pass or fail. It’s a social skill. And like any skill, we all start out as bumbling beginners. You practice, get feedback, tweak things, and try again.

“Eh… I don’t and can’t flirt.”

That was me… up until a few years ago.

Perhaps you, too, feel like flirting is something other people do, especially if it’s been a while since you last dated anyone.

Part of the problem was my definition.

Expressing romantic interest can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn’t have to be! This guide walks you through subtle and direct ways to show someone you’re interested while maintaining confidence, respecting boundaries, and handling rejection gracefully.

Ever felt like starting a conversation is as daunting as walking into a party wearing the wrong outfit? You’re not alone. Whether it’s a text to someone you’ve matched with or introducing yourself at a gathering, initiating a chat can bring up all sorts of anxiety. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be perfect; it just has to be genuine.

Every connection starts with a small leap of faith — talking to a stranger. Of course, not all strangers will become your friends, and sometimes you might even hope for that stranger to become more-than-a-friend.