Many of us spend a lot of time thinking about the cost of rejection. But we spend far less time thinking about the cost of avoiding it.

Effort matters in dating, but it isn’t the only factor. Timing, circumstance, and chance often shape outcomes in ways we don’t fully see.

So, you’ve got the right mindset. Now where do you actually meet people?

When people ask me where to meet someone, the assumption is usually that the right location is the missing piece.