Ever wonder why some dates seem to go nowhere, despite your best efforts? Or why someone you thought was “just okay” at first becomes attractive after a few interactions?

Attraction is complicated — it’s a blend of factors, some within your control and others entirely out of your hands.

There’s a popular idea in modern dating that being sex-positive, confident, and open-minded means sleeping together early — even on the first or second date — is not a big deal.

I’m not here to shame that choice. But for anyone hoping for something meaningful, it’s worth shedding light on what this norm can actually mean.

Confidence is the most attractive quality you can bring to online dating, but it’s not about being loud or perfect. Discover how genuine confidence shows up in everyday interactions, why it matters, and how to recognize and cultivate it.